This last week we discussed the obvious situation where many of us did not have a lot of experiences spending time with our father. As we go through life; struggle and persevere, we get to a place were our first response to the question “don’t you want a father in your life?” we simply answer: “why?”
Our struggle shifts from not giving us support and guidance as a child to that of a burden and question of what is the purpose.
Each of us have learned valuable life lessons over the years and many times having “dad” around does not benefit us much. This becomes a real challenge because of the overall relationship of father and son.
As we move into the role of father, what are our intentions as we come along as a father? The relationship actually shifts. From father as teacher to father as encourager. The father role is not necessarily in a situation to teach, but to embrace and encourage the son and give him affirmation that he has done a good job and that he has what it takes. An initiation.
Now the questions comes to each of us, who have we been initiated by? Who have we verified that we have done well?